Posts tagged ‘feminine’

March 26, 2012

The differences between men and women

I am currently undergoing a writing transformation. Taking twelve weeks and dedicating one evening a week to attending a writing course – the current goal  being to create a character. And in order to do this, we need to be able to empathise and realise the differences between people. Particularly the sexes.

And so here are a few of the differences that I have come across:

  • Women are more emotional. They’re empath radar is far more attuned to those around them, especially if it is someone they know well. It is not good enough to let your friend have a cry, you have to cry with her, as though you were experiencing her pain in the same way.  Men are more like. Oh, you had a bad day – beer? Sorted. No need to talk it through or to hash it out with but what if I’d said this, or what if I’d done that, which brings me to point two…
  • Men don’t doubt themselves nearly as much as women do. Women seem to always be second guyessing themselves. Men make a decision and stick to it. If it doesn’t work out they way they hoped or planned, then they make a new plan or a new decision and move forward. They don’t stop to think about what they could have done better, or what might have worked.
  • Men stick more to the facts. Women see nuances in everything – but did you see how she raised her eyebrow when she said that… to a man, she said what she said and meant it – regardless of facial expression.
  • Men don’t hold grudges. There was a disagreement, maybe a punch, and then its over. Women on the other hand will talk about the disagreement, try and get everyone on their side and then they’ll talk about it some more, adding in nuances and what they should have said.

The similarities:

  • We all eat.
  • We all urinate.
  • We all defecate.

No, I’m just kidding, kind of. We do have similarities, but I’m not sure its something that can be generalised about. I think the similarities depend on who you are, where you come from, your background, your upbringing. Its more than just about whether you are male or female.

Its the similarities, and the differences that bring together the two species (man and woman). The woman to nurture and cherish, the man to love and protect. I think that with the introduction of work, working men and women, the dynamics have shifted ALOT as to what male and female characteristics actually are. For example, the metrosexual male – someone who waxes his eyebrows and other parts of his body because he prefers to be clean shaven permanently – but is married and has kids and has no interest in another man.  The cyclist who likes to shave not only his legs, but his arms as well – safety reasons, or so I’ve heard.

The lines are becoming quite blurred. The man isn’t the only one earning, and might not even be the main provider, two income homes are the norm, whereas a home where only one parent is working is not as common as it once was.  Does this mean that the woman stops being feminine? Perhaps.

But perhaps it has allowed the woman to tap into her masculine side – the office, in some instances, is still very male dominated and so one has had to learn to compete with the men, and to bring the testosterone up a notch.  Does this make the non make-up, pant suite wearing woman manly? Or just more in touch with her masculinity than the hair and eyelash tinted, painted nail counterpart?

I believe that, as we once were in the past, definite defined “girl / boy” rules and rotes, we will have again. Men and women will compete for the same positions, making the most of the advantage afforded them by gender. For example, I believe that women perhaps will be the only medical professionals – they are more caring, nurturing and empathetic towards their patients (in theory, I have had the opposite… and quite honestly, I am not sure I would want to go and work somewhere where there were only women. There would need to be some men there, if only to tell women to shut up and get over it).  Only men will become teachers. Who better to teach the children, with love and discipline right from wrong?  And again, we will need women there to reign the men in, and to remind them that these are just children who do not yet know all there is to know and are now here to be taught.

 

 

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